Just recently, my friend, (let’s just give her a name a’ite??) A, met with this guy and started go out with him. Couple of weeks later, things started to get serious between ‘em. Therefore, as a normal couple would do, they’ll start live together, go out on a date, everything that they do will always be together, well, love is blind when all these “love” stuff starts kicking in, rite? Cool.
Well, the guy is a rather traditional thinking kinda guy. Why am I saying this? On what ground? Based on what? Now, he loves to relate everything to his parents; he can do whatever he wants, but his ‘girl friend’ can’t do whatever that she wish to do; he wants to know everything about his ‘girl friend’ but he can keep secrets from her; he believes that his ‘girl friend’ must prioritize him on top of all others including her job. She must be always available whenever she’s call upon by this guy, these are just some examples that I can think for now. You know the drill.
This IS exactly what my friend, A has encountered currently. When it all first started, this ‘traditional-thinking-guy’, **nicknamed S** seems to be a very good ‘candidate’ for whatever that she seeks of so far, caring, loving, sensitive, bla bla bla……but as things go along, she found out that this guy is not as simple as she thinks. S is MORE than what she expected. It’s WAAAAAAAAAY more.
On a daily basis, S will comment on the way that A dressed up, be it to work, or out on casual dating. If he doesn’t like it ie. Too revealing, he will command A to return to the bedroom and change to another not-too-revealing attire. *FYI: A is almost the same age as mine, and S is almost...err...who gives a flying fark about him here?!* A female working lady should know what is best for her to wear on any occasion by now. No advise should be needed. What makes S think that his sense of fashion is anything but above the rest??
Just one general question to all my readers: Is wearing a mini-skirt with jeans material paired with normal tee-shirt during shopping on a normal weekend consider “revealing”? **see picture below for length of mini skirt** For me, I DON”T THINK SO! But this guy, S certainly thinks that IT IS F**KING REVEALING!!!! FFS, what century are we in now?! It’s 2009 going into 2010 soon, what the fuck is he thinking?! And you think that is all?? WRONG! More to follow.
During a recent public holiday, this friend of mine, A was invited by S, to join him for reunion dinner. For us, this ‘reunion dinner’ is supposed to be held among family members and its next of kin, but not outsiders. Knowing this, my friend politely turned down his request to attend the dinner. When S got to know about this matter, he went haywire and start doing those unimaginable stuff onto A, ** I ain’t elaborate much on this here ‘cos it’s really mind-boggling on those stuff that S did onto A** claiming that the reunion dinner is a compulsory attendance and he won’t accept NO for an answer. All my friend said was: “Sorry, I ain’t going to the dinner ‘cos this is your family reunion dinner. I’m no one to you, just your new girl-friend. We’re just started going out for a couple of months. It’ll be a different matter altogether if we’re married.”
Is that reply rude? I certainly don’t think so. A is just trying to talk some sense into S’s big, thick skull, and into his puny, worthless brain. But yet, her words don’t seems to have any effect onto S.
Being a persistent bastard as he is, without notifying A, he drove his pathetic car and fetch A right after she got outta office block and drive her over for the “compulsory reunion dinner.” Furthermore, she was somehow ‘force’ into promised the bastard’s parent that she WILL be there on the very next day after the reunion dinner, and there’s a dress code in force by the parents ie no blue or black attire allowed during the gathering on that day. WTF?!?! DRESS CODE?!?! Are they still living in the 80s or 90s?! WADAFAK is wrong with these people? It wasn’t a very pleasant experience for A at all.
In work, as both of ‘em working in the same dept, and in the same goddamn MNC company, they tend to come across each other’s work daily. As a marketing executive that they are, he still thinks that he is the BEST above the rest. He teaches A how to deal “effectively” with customers, and all the DOs and DON’Ts in handling a customer. In fact, this bastard is one rank lower than A and he’s not even meeting all the sales targets on a monthly basis. *LMAO* Expert?? I doubt so. Expert in Bullshiting, yes. Thought so.
As months go by, things didn’t go well between both S & A. Since day one they met, S somehow found out that A is having some minor financial difficulties. Not that she wanna let him know that she has that problem, but she just thought that this is her own problem and she would like to settle it off herself. Again, S went berserk after he found out this incident, raising his voice over A on how couples/lovers should be faithful to each other & shouldn’t keep any secrets and bla bla bla…she told him the truth. She DID NOT expect anything outta it as well. She just wanna voiced it out to her loved ones since that S knew it off hand himself. I know A for a long enough time. She certainly not this kinda girl that will go around asking people for $$$$. She would rather keep it all to herself instead of running her mouth to the whole wide world saying: “WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR $” like you see on local tele show.
Outta nowhere. S came out and ‘lend’ her some $$$ to get through the tough time. A turned it down at the first place as she doesn’t need it at all. She wanna settle this all on her own albeit she knows it’s tougher to do it. But when S insisted, hey, why not? A told S that she’ll returned the $$ to him ASAP. S said that there’s no hurry for it as they’re couple (for now) and it is him who lend the $$$ to her on his own free will.
Another few months passed, things got sourer amongst them. A finally couldn’t stand it after all the abovementioned matter happened to her on a daily basis. Put yourself into her shoes. What would you do? Of course you will ask for break-off. S promised A that he’ll curb his anger, change all his aforementioned behaviors and turn over a new leaf just for A. But heck, old habits die hard. Bad stuff repeated itself and this time, no more excuses. A decided to take it up onto S and break this relationship off once and for all. And S duly succumbed to it.
Tell me lads, when a relationship turns sour and a break-off is the final resolution to it. What would one do, be it from male’s perspective or from female’s perspective. Let the humble me analyze this for you in point form:
Male’s perspective:
- regretted
- get on with it
- get another new girl friend
- consider the previous relationship as another ‘stepping stone’ to one more better relationship
Female’s perspective:
- regretted for knowing this bastard
- cry for at least few days on bed, wetting the blanket/pillows/bolster in the process.
- Get on with life.
- Concentrate on job
- Make oneself busier than before to forget the whole breakup.
But in this case. Things seem to be different. The guy apparently asked the girl to return whatever shit that he gave her during their relationship period. Flowers, home decorations’ stuff and most of all, $$$.
Fine. The girl, A, returned everything to the bastard. Due to the fact that both of ‘em are office mates that work in the same department, in the same room, it makes thing even easier when this kinda ‘awkward’ situation arises. A returned everything to the bastard in the office. What makes A abit surprised is that, all the stuff that she returned to the bastard, he dumped it all into the dustbin. Not that she cares or anything like that, but she’s stil surprised by his action afterall those stuff are his, and this is what he did. Owh well, those are his own stuff bought using his own $$$, to hell with it what he likes to do with it, rite? That is not all. Remember earlier I told you lads about the $$$ the he lent to her? S wanted her to return the $$$ to him at that point of time without delay. If she can’t do so, he wants her to sign an “IOU” letter in front of him as a proof.
Now, this is where a stupid joke comes into my mind. An “IOU” letter is supposed to be signed upon transfer of funds instead of after the transfer of funds, correct me if I’m wrong on this. But this joker/bastard/whatever-shit-you-wanna-call-him asked her to sign “IOU” few months after the transfer of funds, and after all things went wrong amongst them. How daft can one be?? In addition to that, those stuff that A returned to S in the office are just portion of what he ‘gave’ her in the office. There’re stil afew ‘leftovers’ in her house. One fine day, outta nowhere, this bastard showed up in her doorstep requesting to take back all the gift that he gave him. How low can a male go on a situation like this??
With these days’ advanced technology, the internet is really an essential tool in one’s life. There are loads of social network kinda websites available eg. facebook, myspace, friendster, Tagged, Hi5 etc etc. Why am I bringing this up? Well, so happen that both of the ‘actor’ & ‘actress’ in this true story have an account in one of the social network websites. This ‘actor’ started to message everyone in actress’s friends’ list about the bad things that she had done throughout the whole period when they were together. FFS, he’s a guy. How low can one be, bad-mouthing a woman who has done nothing that serious to harm him, and yet he went to the extent to announce it to the whole wide world about the bad things that she had done, instead he left out the good things. I’ve got nothing to say on this. He is just a disgrace for all male species.
Alrite, my rants over for now. A is stil getting harassed off and on now after breaking off for almost a month now. For those who intend to go into a relationship, please beware. As the old saying goes: “Do not judge a book from its cover”. You might be wrong to a certain extent.
It's midnite now, I gotta hit the sack now. I've got few more stuff to rant about recently. Bloody work schedule is taking a toll on me now. See 'ya guys soon, and I mean REAL SOON.
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